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Talking Back to Internalized Negativity

What do you do when the harshest voice in the room is the one inside your own head? This reflection explores how to notice internalized negativity, talk back to shame, and choose words that open up possibility.

Dr. Tom Wagner

3 days ago2 min read

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Unbroken: Part Three

How does someone heal after experiencing profound trauma? This article explores the deeper, resilient, and even sacred part of the human spirit that suffering cannot destroy.

Dr. Tom Wagner

May 39 min read

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Unbroken: Part Two

Even a small, steady experience of love can anchor a person through trauma. This reflection explores how that same capacity exists in all of us, both to receive and to give.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Apr 269 min read

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Unbroken

Even in the worst conditions, the human spirit finds ways to survive. This article explores how those small acts of survival can become the foundation for healing.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Apr 199 min read

Each and Every Soul Has Some Easter In It, No Exceptions

What if there’s a part of you that already knows how to “keep climbing” when things get hard? This reflection explores the resilience woven into every soul.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Apr 55 min read

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Mind the Gap

What would it mean to “love the one you’re with”—when that one is you, just as you are? This reflection explores that invitation.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Mar 296 min read

Relationship Repair: The Heart of Resilience

Close relationships will expose parts of you that still need maturing. The question is not whether you’ll fail — but whether you’ll repair. This reflection walks through what a real apology requires.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Feb 152 min read

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Practicing Presence

Winter has a way of revealing what has been growing underground all along. Read on for a reflection on resilience, presence, and healing through Presence.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Jan 45 min read

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A Storied Life

Some memories surface with more weight than others. This week’s reflection explores how to sit with them long enough to discover what they’re trying to say.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Nov 30, 20257 min read

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A Place in Time

We make meaning long before we realize we’re doing it. This reflection invites you to slow down enough to notice the stories forming in you right now.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Nov 16, 20255 min read

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How to Intentionally Shape Your Life with Foundational/Formational Stories

What stories are shaping you—quietly guiding your choices, bending your path, even when you don’t notice? Read on to rediscover how your own stories—told and untold—can become sources of strength and grace.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Nov 9, 20256 min read

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What’s In Your Back Seat?

When anxiety and division crawl into your back seat, how do you keep them from taking over the whole ride? This piece explores one way to set boundaries with what you can’t eliminate.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Oct 5, 20254 min read

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Restorative Practices: Lessons in Trust from a Classroom of 10-Year-Olds

Restorative Practices tell us that healing moves at the speed of trust. This reflection explores what children can teach us about repair and community-building.

Lizzie Wiegert

Aug 24, 20258 min read

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Summer Reading

What if the right summer novel could help you see your everyday life in 3D? This reflection explores how stories help us come more fully alive to the moment we’re already in.

Dr. Tom Wagner

Jul 20, 20255 min read

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Talking Back to Internalized Negativity

Unbroken: Part Three

Unbroken: Part Two

Unbroken

Each and Every Soul Has Some Easter In It, No Exceptions

Mind the Gap

Relationship Repair: The Heart of Resilience

Practicing Presence

A Storied Life

A Place in Time

How to Intentionally Shape Your Life with Foundational/Formational Stories

What’s In Your Back Seat?

Restorative Practices: Lessons in Trust from a Classroom of 10-Year-Olds

Summer Reading

Explore the full archive of Sunday Morning Cafe blogs from 2009 through 2024.

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